Tuesday, December 30, 2008
not like, driving down the interstate and your brakes go out (one of his recurring dreams) or clenching your teeth so hard they start crumbling and breaking and you can't stop (one of mine).
sometimes we feel so trapped in life. we don't know how to move toward our dreams. we're just shuffling along, trying to keep up with the flow.
at thanksgiving we spent some time with family members who've served in military service. two of them have actually been deployed in the past 5 years or so. one is just beginning his service. one spent twenty years in full-time service for the marines and another served in vietnam. they talked about the benefits they receive and the sacrifices they've made.
the conversation really got into our heads. we started seriously researching whether this would be an option for our family. it would help us reach some of our goals financially. it would provide mr. arganbright the opportunity to continue his education and maybe get a job he's really gifted for.
after a few weeks of examining all of our options, we decided to go for it and mr. arganbright joined the national guard.
we've received a variety of responses to this decision. many insulting, some supportive... i think most people just don't know much about it, so they ask questions or make statements that seem rude, when it's really just ignorance. his integrity as a husband and a father has been questioned by some. i think that hurts me more than it hurts him. he answers calmly, respects their opinions. i want to cry and defend him till i'm breathless. i may be a little naive, but we aren't walking into this with our eyes closed. we truly believe this is the best opportunity we have to achieve our dreams. will it be hard when seth is gone for four months of training? yes. is it scary to think about the possibility of deployment? yes. will we have to move? no. will he be gone a lot? about 30 hours a month and two weeks in the summer. will he make much money? not much, but the $20,000 signing bonus will help, and the money he'll receive for school will be nice, and the $400/month we'll save on insurance is great. from the beginning, i have had a sense of peace about this decision. this is something we are doing together. as a family. for our family.
mr. arganbright wouldn't tell you this, but i will:
when he went to take his entrance exam, he wanted to do well because your score determines what kind of opportunities you will be eligible for throughout your career. just to make it in, you have to get a 50. if you want a better job, you need a 75. seth was hoping to get a 110 because you can get specialized training and a really good job.
he scored 134 out of 136. amazing. his recruiters had never even seen a score that high.
that simple number helps brings me peace and confidence that we are doing the right thing.
some of you are probably thinking "that's organized?!"
enjoying her new slide from "nonny" and "dad-dad"
Monday, December 29, 2008
well, we all know men don't listen...but in this case i'm lucky he didn't!
then, on christmas day i received this!
and these from my parents!
and this from my sister!
what fantastic gifts! i think santa's been reading my blog!!!
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Monday, December 15, 2008
for some reason, today piper and the big e have either been picking at each other (ex: hitting, stealing toys, screaming, crying, etc.) or getting into mischief (ex: drawing on chairs, crumbling lunch into bitty pieces, emptying cabinets) all. day. long.
meanwhile, little e likes to be held a lot, so it can be very difficult to wrangle two toddlers while holding a baby. i've definitely lost my cool a couple times (see chair-drawing incident).
big e and little e were both ready for a nap (finally) so after they went down i was changing piper's diaper and as she was fighting me (again) i was thinking about how sweet and lovely she was as a baby and how feisty she is now and i said, "i don't know what happened to you."
as soon as the words left my mouth, i had this flash of shad helmstetter's voice saying how powerful our words are. how, essentially, each of us has a computer within and all of our lives, people are typing words into that computer. positive or negative, they shape us into the person we will become and how we perceive ourselves.
i realized, i am already shaping piper into the woman she will become. i only have five years with her to myself before she will go off to school and have others constantly typing into her little computer. the thought scared me and i wondered how many times i've already "typed" negativity, insecurity, or shame into her.
i need to be in control of my words, even when i'm angry, frustrated, and exhausted. i want to speak words of inspiration, admiration, and affirmation in truth and in love to piper.
this is my reminder.
this little area is above the stairs leading to the basement
flats on the rack, boots on the shelf, sneaks & heels on the floor
Friday, December 12, 2008
Thursday, December 11, 2008
-find something to eat for breakfast DONE
-finally mail jeans i sold on ebay like a month ago DONE-whew!
-organize something DONE-see above post
-make the bulletin DONE
-watch e and e from noon-5 (that's not a tv show, they're children) DONE
-plan a date with mr. arganbright DONE-ish
-get some groceries DONE-yum!
-clean something DONE-vaccumed
-print and fold bulletins DONE
-go on date with mr. arganbright DONE-thai!
-work from 8-noon DONE
-buy gift for secret santa DONE
-return boots and maybe pants DONE and DONE
-try not to get annoyed at crazy christmas shoppers not-DONE
-find ugly christmas sweaters at goodwill DONE
-make appetizer (any ideas?!) DIDN'T-but there was plenty!
-caroling/ugly christmas sweater party @ 5:30 DONE-fun!
-go out to the farm & chop down a tree!
-biggest loser finale on tuesday, don't forget! awesomely DONE
(i don't actually watch the whole season, but every year i love to watch the last couple of episodes. a.may.zing)
-finish christmas shopping (mom a, dad a, jon, DONE, mimi, jessie, toni, grandpa willie)
-ask desiree about coat
Monday, December 08, 2008
Monday, December 01, 2008
I really enjoyed seeing your recent creations. The chairs have such beautiful shapes and your fabric choices seem to complement them very nicely. I am delighted to hear you will be featured on design*sponge. It is a wonderful blog and Grace is such a genuine and talented style seeker.
I would love to add these images to my "fresh ideas" page! I will post them on my next web site upload.
Joel Dewberry Textile Designer
from joel himself! what a darling!